Family members are toxic. क्या कर सकते हैं life मैं? See you cannot choose family, you can choose friends. You agree with that or not? You can choose friends but you cannot choose family. Like this, there are some karmas that you have come to execute and some karmas you can avoid. Family, all this is prarabdha. वो तुम लेके आए तुम्हारे साथ में। You are stuck with them. Because you have that debt somewhere to pay off.
So I tell you, have you heard of the lepikas? You know who the lepikas are? The lepikas are the contract signer people. When you come into the world, the lepika and you sit across the table, like this. And lepika has a list, कि यार तेरा ये dues है, this is your debit, this is your credit. तेरा next life में तेरेको क्या चाहिए? Which part of the debit do you want to take and which part of the credits do you want to take? And then you and the lepika sign a contract, की मेरेको ये ये debit चाहिये, मेरे को ये ये credit चाहिए, next lifetime में I will execute all of this stuff. And then you forget about it.
And then you, when you are born into this world, that memory of the lepika is erased from you. And you come with the baggage that you have agreed on the contract with the lepika already. So you have already agreed, कि I will go to these four jokers that I call my family members who are like shit people and completely toxic. But you have already agreed for that in the contract. What are you complaining about it? It is your contract, you already signed it. पहले सोचना चाहिए था before signing the contract. Now it's too late, अभी भुक्तो contract. What can you do yaar? It is owed to you, some things are owed to you, you owe people something, those two people come together and finish it off. This is life, this is how the karma things work. Some are owed to you, some owed to you like this. And those two people only come and the karma is exchanged and it's done. So once you understand this, then that whole why me, why my family is toxic, ये ऐसा क्यों है, वैसा क्यों है। वो तो पूरा song बनाया, "मैं ऐसा क्यों हूँ, मैं वैसा क्यों हूँ।" अबे वैसा ही हैं तू, what can you do?
Not only you, everybody else is like that. Once you understand this, then there is no "hmmm, aah, vaam" Everything gets closed. That's it. You just accept and move on. You ignore. What does, Narad gives the good example of this. When Narad says that when there is an emotional conflict that you encounter, the one thing that you do is invoke ignorance. You ignore that. Whenever that emotional conflict comes, you ignore it. You don't want to do this. And you move on. This way you maintain your emotional purity. You don't let your emotional state get contaminated by all this other shit that is happening in your life. Narad is the guy to go to. And he already, we looked at it. In the deep dive of Narad Bhakti Sutras, we have looked at it. You know. So those of you who have not done it, somebody will send a link of the recordings. You can buy it and listen to it. We went into great detail in all this stuff. How to maintain emotional purity, all this stuff. Do it.